March 18, 2017
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Looking to Turn Off the Noise
After my presentation on stress, I went back to my office and had an instant replay in my head of all the things that went wrong, didn't connect, failed to engage, and received eye rolls. Right in the middle of that mental calliope I realized that it was just noise. I immediately turned the internal dialogue from looking at the negative to taking stock of the positives. Although I would have liked to have had more engagement I accomplished what I set out to do - make the staff aware of different coping techniques and give them an opportunity to practice some of them. So the stress presentation stressed me out but on the bright side I was able to turn off the noise in my head! I took charge and control of my thoughts. The steering wheel was in my hands and I got to decide the station and volume of the radio! Several of my coworkers have difficulties turning off the self directed criticisms. I think they must subconsciously enjoy playing the victim and if there isn't enough exterior negativity they have to provide their own internal soundtrack. As I mentioned before, we set ourselves up for failure when we insist on perfection. We will never achieve perfection but we can reach excellence. And on some days we can aim for excellence and rejoice in "good enough"!
I caught myself before it slipped out
“Don’t ask questions”
I hesitated to inquire
“Ignorance is bliss”
I wanted clarification
“Curiosity killed the cat”
Thus I sat quietly waiting
Feeling unworthy
Incapable of understanding
Not trustworthy enough
To hold the truthHere is a little poem that speaks to the unspoken message we give to our children and especially the girls when when hush them. It addresses the Winter Scavenger Hunt 2017 prompt #15 - Use the phrase “Curiosity killed the cat”...
Comments (10)
You captured my feelings of insecurity perfectly!
Yeah I've got issues - I just hide them better than others...
I love this -- parent-speak is SO important in forming a child's mind/mentality! I'm glad the presentation went "as well as could be expected." There are always people who react badly to that type of presentation -- why do I have to be here -- I'm not stressed out!
Thanks for the compliment on the poem. We don't realize how and what we say to children can make a huge impression. As for the presentation, it wasn't that they aren't stressed but that they didn't need any of the coping skills I was teaching - they have their booze so it is all fine!! (not)
@murisopsis: Oh, dear -- that makes it even worse!
I know but some people think that alcohol is the great panacea!
Okay....I've had "eye rolls" myself...from my LifeSavers Group ladies when I would remind them how many more casualties we had in Iraq since most of them were all for it back then. It was like, "Oh, no! There she goes again..."
Maybe some of the stress coping will come back to help some of the eye rollers. I'd bet some of my LSaver friends came to realize the waste and tragedy of that war I was forever protesting and reminding them of every week!
No one likes an "inconvenient truth". The eye rolls continue but most of the people in attendance got a little something out of the talk.
By the way...loved the poem...put it in your book too...it's a winner!
Thanks. I didn't really like it - but then again I'm not always the best judge of my poetry or ceramics...