September 22, 2016
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Looking at Mother
Mrs. Amanda Fuller was a woman of consequence. Her petite frame could scarcely contain the force of her personality. Liz had grown up in the shadow of her mother. It was hard to escape her mother's watchful eye since she was a room mother, PTO President, organizer for every fundraiser and chums with all the teachers. In junior high school Liz overheard some girls trying to recall a name. They couldn't remember and finally said "You know, what'shername, Mrs. Fuller’s daughter." It was a blow to realize that her classmates knew her mother better than they knew her. She worked hard to make a name for herself in High School. She made the cheer leading squad. She was Vice President of Student Council too. She participated in every club and activity that was available. By the time she graduated from high school she had found a small place beyond her mother’s influence. College had given her more autonomy and she thrived. Holidays were painful as she submitted to her mother’s decisions concerning her hair, clothes, even her music selections. Out of self-preservation Liz started seeing a school psychologist. Life was good. Her self-image improved along with her confidence. She felt strong and capable. The job with Mr. Jacan had whittled away at her psyche. The final straw was this strange illness. Now that she was better and soon to be discharged, she had a new fearlessness. At least until the prospect of being in the same room as her parents was manifest. She had spent several pleasant hours with Dr. Hawk before her parents burst into the room. Thankfully he had already left by the time her mother made her grand entrance. Liz had braced herself for the moment. When her mother rushed to the bed, Liz threw off the covers and stood up.
Comments (8)
I wonder how many girls grow up under the spectre of their mothers' influence! And for how many it is so easy to fall back into that influence simply because of mothers' presence. Yay for Liz!
I think we all tend to fall back into the family dynamic - with parents and siblings. And the same is true with friends. Which might be part of the whole class reunion angst - you have changed, they have changed but the expectations of behavior haven't!
My father was the domineering one. No matter how old I am, or what I have done with my life, including raising two boys since their toddler years alone, dear old Dad still treats me like I am an incapable twelve year old, rather than an adult. Perhaps one of the reasons I never moved back after my divorce.
I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully he can see you as you are instead of who he wants you to be. Having you as a 12 yr old maintains his sense of authority... Too bad he won't let you grow up in his mind.
Wow! I don't think this is in any way biographical! Sure hope not! Love you!
Ha! You know perfectly well it doesn't have a shred of reality attached - at least not from my experiences!
@murisopsis: Interesting -- in a couple of weeks I'll be going to a reunion of sorts -- a beach picnic with classmates (59 years).
Enjoy! I bet you can still recognize people - at least most people's smiles don't change....
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